March 3, 2011
3 Steps to Total Presence
Total Presence is not how you dress, how you speak or what kind of body language you use. Its the totality of how you come across, how you communicate who and what you are, and how this shape your presence.
We cannot stop communicating. We communicate if we talk and if we don’t say a word.
We can have a strong presence or a weak presence, but we all have a presence.
I will help you get in control of what you communicate and how you shape your presence.
September 27, 2011
As an introvert masquerading as an extrovert I have a strong need to just be by myself sometimes. It might be in the middle of a big conference (or maybe especially in the middle of a big conference), it might be a Friday or Saturday and I just don’t want to follow the crowd to the newest nightspot or it might be a whole weekend just being me.
I just want to be by myself a little bit. Take some time off. Maybe a glass of wine, a good book or a brain numbing TV show. Maybe with a good friend. Maybe not. Maybe there’s a big party on and I might just be sitting on the balcony all by myself. Maybe I’m checking out a restaurant with a friend while everyone else are off to a night club. Maybe I’m just sleeping. I’m for sure not doing anything particularly cool or exciting. That’s the last thing I need when I need to retreat to my own space. You know what I’m saying.
Its not just that these breaks from the public me helps me recoup energy, focus on what I think is important and wind down, I also noticed that these breaks from the spotlight had another and rather surprising effect on how people perceive me…
May 12, 2011
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One of my favorite studies and something I never tire of quoting is Dr. Wiseman’s study from 2003 on the Luck Factor (also a book).
Dr. Wiseman examined the lives of 400 either exceptionally lucky or unlucky people over a period of several years.
Dr. Wiseman is always looking at the supernatural and unexplainable and he simply didn’t believe that people were “just lucky”.
I believe I am lucky. I am incredibly lucky. In fact I think Dr. Wiseman could have written the whole study just about me.
Does that mean I think luck is something I was born with, something people just simply have (or not), something that means I can just sit back and relax not doing anything ever again in my life?
Not exactly, no. I believe luck is something you need to work on, and optimism is your first step.
So what’s up with these lucky people?
I think Dr. Wiseman explains it best in his own words: Continue reading
May 11, 2011
I’ve been reading a couple of blog posts recently where people are talking about personal branding as something bad, something fake, something imposed, and I disagree.
First of all – Personal branding isn’t a choice. You already have a brand. You might not have a conscious brand, you might not have made concrete choices as to how you will be shaping your brand. But you have a brand.
Secondly – you can fake your brand. Some people do that on their CVs. Its not something I recommend. Faking your brand makes you come off as insincere and…well…fake.
A personal brand is how people know you, how people see you. What people think when they think about you. Do you always come late to appointments? Are you always on time? Always wear flats? High heels? Purple? Black? That’s your brand.
April 26, 2011
Many people who are climbing the career ladder are waiting to say what they think until they reach the top. They wait for that “moment” when you are allowed to do start influencing. I don’t think it works this way at all.
I’ve interviewed Sofie Sandell, Film Producer and Change Maker Extraordinaire. Every time I meet Sofie she reminds me to stay on track and be ambitious.
Hi Sofie, can you tell us a bit about yourself?
My name is Sofie Sandell and I live in West London. I’m originally from Göteborg, Sweden.
April 24, 2011
I’ve just finished a new work book for my coaching clients. The work book maps current presence on 5 dimensions and will help clients build a base to expand their presence and impact on.
It’s always fun to have the finished product in my hands. The workbook is about 15 pages and I use it in my first week of coaching. Right now I have 15 test bunnies (Easter-test bunnies, yay) trying and testing it. I will hear from them in a week when they’ve lived with the book and seen the impact it has on their lives.
The book is a tool to learn about yourself, your areas of strength in terms of personal presence and which areas you would like to develop. In my coaching we work with 5 dimensions of personal presence – awareness, presence, authenticity, empathy and clarity, and the book assesses all 5 dimensions.
If you want to see how I can help you develop your personal presence, schedule an initial call with me or get in touch to learn more.
April 19, 2011
One of the questions I get the most when I train Networking skills, both basic and strategic, is how can I make myself interesting to others?
I have both some good news and some bad news, and James Bond will help me.
The bad news is – you can’t. Trying to make yourself interesting to others won’t make you interesting. Tell them how many contacts you have, how important you are, and you will shortly be standing there by yourself.
Did 007 get his aura of mystery and charm by bragging about how many yachts he’s blown up and how he’s now just about to catch the next villain?
In addition to not getting him closer to the villain, this tactic won’t make James Bond many friends.
March 9, 2011
Some people just have it. You know as soon as they step into any room – heads turn, attention shifts, people listen.
But is it that simple? Or that hard? Is presence something you “just have” or don’t? I believe anyone can build presence and in this short article I give you 5 easy ways to get a better physical presence through your body language.
March 9, 2011
Why is it we are sometimes afraid of extending a hand in greeting?
Take responsibility for building a great relationship and a great first impression from the very beginning. The person you greet will be grateful for your action and feel appreciated and welcome.
March 9, 2011
What is your bandwidth? What makes you interesting? What is the whole you?
There’s a thin line between glamorously eccentric and simply weird. We just want to make you YOU. Just more of you. More of your fabulousness.
No-one is perfect. Perfection isn’t interesting. We are interested in whole persons. The whole bandwidth.
Having a strong presence is about finding your bandwidth. Finding which of your quirks and “imperfections” makes you you.